I’ve often rejected the cultural use of the word “photogenic.” Mostly, because this term is used negatively ninety-five percent of the time. I hear, too often, people cutting themselves down for not being photogenic, stating their face will break my camera. While I can appreciate the ease that laughing at this self depricating joke can bring, it also comes with a sensitivity. The reality of the situation is, anyone can have a bad photograph taken of them. Just as equally, everyone can look good in a photograph. The good news is that looking good in a photograph is a simple formula. Of course, I’m chuckling at using the term “simple” because there’s actually quite a bit of personal work that goes into this two step process.

The one element that makes the biggest difference is believing yourself. If you want to appear confident you have to believe in yourself. Body language and your wardrobe will help but, if you are feeling insecure, it will show up in your expression. Whatever your belief about yourself is, it will radiate through the details - be it the corner of your mouth, slight tilt of your brow, your smile not reaching your eyes, a slight falling of your muscle in your temple instead of a lift. These details have the power to transform how we appear in front of the camera. When we feel self-assured, it positively affects our body language, facial expressions, and overall demeanor, resulting in more captivating and authentic photographs.

The second element is vulnerability. In order to show up authentically, you have to be willing to let your mental walls come down. A lack of vulnerability mostly shows through muscle tension, though it can also show up in the same locations a lack of confidence will. Just check out the three photographs of me below. While this session was one of my recent favorites - because I was feeling good about myself and the results showed it - there were still moments in the session that I could see my mentality falter.

The three stages of getting my confidence to show through. The furthest left image of me shows my confidence faltering. The second shows me slightly more confident but a bit stiff because I’m not fully engaged mentally. The last photograph shows my confidence in my expression and body language.

It's essential to remember that comparing ourselves to others can be detrimental to our self-esteem. In a world where culture often showcases only highlights and successes, it's easy to fall into the trap of feeling inadequate or "less than." This makes it all the more important to recognize that we rarely know the full story behind someone's seemingly perfect “photogenic” image. Give yourself - and them - grace, remembering that we don't always see each others struggles, insecurities, or challenges we might be facing. We all have our moments of vulnerability. The next time you step in front of the camera, give yourself a pep talk, recall what you are good at and what you like about yourself. Do your best to put yourself in a positive mindset and let your confidence and authenticity shine through. Feel the relief in realizing that your strengths are not only genuine but also inspiring to others. Embrace yourself, for you are truly valuable, and your portraits will reflect the incredible person you are.

Recently, I had the opportunity to work with Joan creating personal branding portraits for an upcoming talk she was giving with a peer. While Joan holds an esteemed position in her field, she was struggling with her image. Her peer, whose photographs would be next to hers on all the marketing material for the event and who would, of course, be standing on stage with her - in a word - polished. While Joan knew that her personality was different than her peer’s, she still felt like she wouldn’t measure up to her peer's pristine appearance. Determined to feel like she belonged beside her companion both in her own eyes and the eyes of the audience, she decided to invest in portraits that would elevate her presence while building her confidence, helping her feel like a true equal.

Often, when I speak with someone and they are vulnerable with their insecurities, I anticipate body language that matches the mindset. Body language is more of an opportunity than an issue, as I know we can work together to establish an authentic, confident presence. As we began Joan’s session, however, I was immediately struck by her poise. She exuded confidence - in every angle and expression. I was a bit baffled, wondering if I’d accidentally mislabeled my consultation notes. The empowered woman I saw before me was nothing of what I expected. She effortlessly settled into herself.

Bemused and smiling, I showed Joan the photographs on the back of my camera commenting on how stunning and confident she was, expressing how assuredly she moved. She couldn't believe it. She looked at the photographs with a mix of relief and disbelief, exclaiming, "Really?! That's a relief. I feel so fake and vulnerable." It was a moment that spoke volumes.

Imposter syndrome is a sneaky creature that affects so many high-achieving individuals, regardless of their talents and success. We all have moments when we compare ourselves to others, thinking we fall short. But here's the thing—we rarely know the full story behind someone's seemingly perfect image. We don't see the struggles, the doubts, and the insecurities they may be grappling with. We're all on our own unique journeys, and it's essential to remember that.

So, as Joan smiled in front of my camera, I couldn't help but admire her tenacity and determination to overcome her self doubt. She was a reminder that true beauty and strength come from embracing our potential, not belittling it; from seeing who we are and what we have to offer and moving towards being the best of ourselves despite what insecurities may be gnawing at us. It's about recognizing our worthiness, celebrating our accomplishments, and showing ourselves some much-needed compassion.

In the end, Joan’s portraits showed a woman who was resolutely overcoming her doubts and fears. They were a testament to her journey and a reminder to us all that we can have success in every opportunity that comes our way if we allow ourselves. Each of us has our own unique brilliance and inner strength, waiting to be discovered and shared with the world. Embrace your confidence, embrace your authenticity, and embrace the beauty of your own remarkable journey. It is through embracing our true selves that we shine the brightest.

UNCOMFORTABLE, that's the description I hear most often when people come in to have their photograph taken. It's incredibly common to not like being in front of a camera. Whether it's because you feel fat, old, ugly, tired or what-have-you [insert your own reason here], having your portrait made can be unpleasant.

You are not alone. Based on my own experience with clients, I'd say 9 out of 10 people are uncomfortable having their photograph taken. Even I am uncomfortable in front of the camera. One of my biggest fears is looking fat in photos and not looking like the real me (whether that's looking too good or too bad - although I don't mind the "too good" as much). 

Take this photograph, for instance. This is a VERY recent photograph and, oh my gosh, I HATE it. I look dopey, ghostly, have no jaw line and look chunkier than I feel I actually am. I have no eyebrows or eyes and I feel like a big pile of gross blah. I. Feel. Ugly.

My husband even, once I told him I really wanted to untag myself in the photo, said he contemplated untagging me because it's not how I look in real life. Like, it's a BAD, BAD photograph - and it's out there for the world to see, thanks to social media.

Now, I've had uncomplimentary photographs before and I've been working on being comfortable getting past my own vanity and appreciating the moment and the people I'm sharing the memory with. This latest picture is definitely testing my self-appreciation methods though. I'm attempting to be thankful for the humbling reminder to keep my vanity in check and always do my best to represent who my clients truly are. While I might look uglier in photos than I see myself, I am choosing to focus my attention on remembering that I love the people in this photograph and the time together this photo represents.

While there is little we can do about the quality of the photographs shared and tagged on social media by other people, any time you have photographs made with a photographer, you can always open a dialogue with them. I want to know your insecurities. I want to know which side is your favorite. I want to know what you are learning to like about yourself. I want to know all of these things so that I can be sensitive to where you are at and capture you in the best light, as the best representation of you.

It's natural and normal to feel uncomfortable in front of a camera. It is normal to have fears and insecurities; and, it is expected that, at a vulnerable time like when you're having your portrait made, your uncomfortable feelings may come out. Just remember you're not alone, your opinions about yourself matter and I'm going to do my best to photograph the most beautiful version of you.