I’ve often rejected the cultural use of the word “photogenic.” Mostly, because this term is used negatively ninety-five percent of the time. I hear, too often, people cutting themselves down for not being photogenic, stating their face will break my camera. While I can appreciate the ease that laughing at this self depricating joke can bring, it also comes with a sensitivity. The reality of the situation is, anyone can have a bad photograph taken of them. Just as equally, everyone can look good in a photograph. The good news is that looking good in a photograph is a simple formula. Of course, I’m chuckling at using the term “simple” because there’s actually quite a bit of personal work that goes into this two step process.
The one element that makes the biggest difference is believing yourself. If you want to appear confident you have to believe in yourself. Body language and your wardrobe will help but, if you are feeling insecure, it will show up in your expression. Whatever your belief about yourself is, it will radiate through the details - be it the corner of your mouth, slight tilt of your brow, your smile not reaching your eyes, a slight falling of your muscle in your temple instead of a lift. These details have the power to transform how we appear in front of the camera. When we feel self-assured, it positively affects our body language, facial expressions, and overall demeanor, resulting in more captivating and authentic photographs.
The second element is vulnerability. In order to show up authentically, you have to be willing to let your mental walls come down. A lack of vulnerability mostly shows through muscle tension, though it can also show up in the same locations a lack of confidence will. Just check out the three photographs of me below. While this session was one of my recent favorites - because I was feeling good about myself and the results showed it - there were still moments in the session that I could see my mentality falter.
The three stages of getting my confidence to show through. The furthest left image of me shows my confidence faltering. The second shows me slightly more confident but a bit stiff because I’m not fully engaged mentally. The last photograph shows my confidence in my expression and body language.
It's essential to remember that comparing ourselves to others can be detrimental to our self-esteem. In a world where culture often showcases only highlights and successes, it's easy to fall into the trap of feeling inadequate or "less than." This makes it all the more important to recognize that we rarely know the full story behind someone's seemingly perfect “photogenic” image. Give yourself - and them - grace, remembering that we don't always see each others struggles, insecurities, or challenges we might be facing. We all have our moments of vulnerability. The next time you step in front of the camera, give yourself a pep talk, recall what you are good at and what you like about yourself. Do your best to put yourself in a positive mindset and let your confidence and authenticity shine through. Feel the relief in realizing that your strengths are not only genuine but also inspiring to others. Embrace yourself, for you are truly valuable, and your portraits will reflect the incredible person you are.
